20 years of Infertility

18yrs-19yrs
Start trying to conceive (TTC) with partner. I go to my GP on several occasions within a couple of months, with symptoms of Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID). Each time GP says there's nothing wrong and no treatment is given.
19yrs-21yrs
Still TTC.
21yrs
Laparoscopy shows severe damage to both fallopian tubes as a result of untreated chronic PID. My only chance of pregnancy is by Assisted Conception.
22yrs
Partner leaves me for someone who is fertile. In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) is not an option as most clinics will only treat couples (it is also expensive and has much lower success rates than now).
21yrs-30yrs
Trying to come to terms with
Infertility and accept not having a child/children.
30yrs
Coming to terms with
Infertility but unable to accept not having a child/children. Nozy (who I met at 27yrs) suggests we try
IVF (by this time the success rates are 25-35% for women under 35yrs).
30yrs-32yrs
Saving for IVF.
32yrs-to present time
Saving for future IVF/FETs.
33yrs
IVF cycle starts early October 2005 (having been delayed most of the year) at
Bourn Hall clinic.
Egg Collection is 1st December and 21 eggs are retrieved, 18 fertilised.
Embryo Transfer is 3rd December. Two embryos are transferred and 16 embryos are frozen. Then the
Two Week Wait (2ww).
Beta hCG blood test is 16th December and it's a BFP (Big Fat Positive). I'm pregnant.
Life with a sunny boy begins.
Anxious wait for 6wk early pregnancy scan and I'm overjoyed to see a heartbeat. Anxiety throughout first trimester and hoping to relax in second trimester but bleeding at 13wks so anxiety continues. Finally start to believe that everything is fine and I'm going to give birth soon when baby starts kicking at 16wks and after 20wk scan.
Sunnyboy is born August 2006.
33yrs-37yrs
Appreciating life as an IVF mother.
Sunnyboy is growing big. Every day I think of our
embryos; they are my babies. Waiting to be able to try Frozen Embryo Transfer (FET) cycle/s.
37yrs-38yrs
Appreciating life as an IVF mother and
looking forward to FET.
38yrs
FET cycle begins late October 2010 at
Bourn Hall. At endometrial scan the embryo transfer is delayed for a week due to needing more Oestrogen.
Second endometrial scan is fine so embryo transfer is booked for Monday 20th December and all our 16 embryos are thawed so they can be cultured to blastocysts (then two transferred and the unused ones frozen again). On Friday 17th December I learn that 10 have survived the thaw, on Saturday there are 6 but most are not growing and on Sunday there are 3 and none are growing well. On Monday we go to the clinic for the transfer and are told that only one embryo is still viable and hasn't reached blastocyst stage. The transfer is delayed to see if the embryo can get to blastocyst stage by the next day. On Tuesday 21st December the clinic phones to say that the embryo didn't make it.
My babies are gone.
I am a Mother and I am Infertile.